Life brings challenges that we will all face.   One constant is change.  Change can present opportunities for growth.  A lot of how we cope with changes can be viewed as a state of mind.  If the changes are simple or positive then coping with the changes are easy.  If the changes involve loss, pain, or suffering then a number of factors come into play generally termed coping strategies.   Here's a list of coping strategies I find useful:

• Use your support system – You may feel better sharing your feelings with a caring friend or family member. It can help to know that you're not the only one who has disagreements with a spouse, problems with parenting or other worries.
• Talk it over with yourself – We often have no control over the unpleasant events that happen in our lives, but we can change what we say to ourselves about these events. All our feelings are greatly affected by what we say to ourselves.
  
  Avoid:
  • Catastrophizing ("This is the worst thing that ever happened to me.")
  • Generalizing ("My dog doesn't like me therefore, no one will.")
  • Projecting ("I'm sure this isn't going to work out.")
  Instead, try telling yourself "I am loved and safe" Practice talking nicely to yourself.
• Don't demand perfection – Ease up on yourself and those around you – accept that everyone has both strengths and shortcomings.
• Just say no – Sometimes, we take on too much. You can avoid feeling overburdened by setting realistic goals and priorities. Remember, it's OK to say no to requests that push you beyond your limits.
• Take one thing at a time – Instead of thinking of other things you should be doing, focus on the task at hand and do it well. You'll enjoy the sense of accomplishment and regain a sense of control.
• Strive for balance in your life – Make time for activities and people you enjoy. Taking your mind off stressful matters for a while can help you keep a healthy perspective.
• Be active – Walk your dog, go dancing or join a gym. If you're generally healthy, aim to get at least 2.5 hours a week of moderate-intensity aerobic activity. At least two days a week, work in some muscle-strengthening activity at a moderate intensity or higher. Just be sure to check with your doctor before significantly increasing your level of physical activity.(http://www.uhc.com/source4women/health_topics/stress/managing_stress_tools_and_resources/coping_strategies.htm on april 24/2014)

Often what a change IS a heavy one such as the death of  loved one, separation from a relationship, losing a job, facing illness then the task of coping can seem that much harder.   

I feel that some useful and healthy practices are the Sedona Method, meditation, and breath work.  A lot of stress is based on perception and the Sedona Method which in my opinion is similar to embracing a Taoist philosophy.  Basically, it's the idea of releasing the thoughts, feelings and patterns that cause us to hold onto pain and negative self programming.  I'll be going into this in my next blog.